So just like that, first came the marriage and then came the news that there will be a baby in 9 months. Just to be clear it's not mine, but rather a friend that I have known and respected for a long time. From the first day I met her, I always had a high opinion of her, her work ethic was second to none and she seemed very organized.
Near the end of our tenure in school, she started dropping off in terms of marks, but it wasn't because she wasn't trying, but rather she had invested a great deal of time in other academic pursuits. At first I was angry with her because I had thought we'd graduate together and eventually work together someday.
Then she got engaged and now she's having a baby. It's clear to myself that I am very much disappointed in her. She's throwing her life away.
Then I take a step back, look at the whole picture and think, maybe this is what she wants, and what I want for her is irrelevant. I do want me friends to do well, but what I imagine their path to greatness is just that, my imagination. What I want in life is what I want, not someone else's, why should I propose my ideals on someone else.
Everyone has their own life, and it's not my place to tell others how to live. She seems happy, and as a friend, that's all I should want her to have in her life.
Congrats to you Mel, you're moving up in life, I'm so happy for you.